Slytherin

No more exclusionism here.

I posted this to Tumblr earlier, in response to one of those posts showing up in my recent activity:

Hey so I just want to say I used to be a massive exclusionist asshole about asexual people (specifically “aro/ace hetero” people) like, a couple years ago on Tumblr. I honestly have no idea what the hell any of that was about, how it got started, or why it was just that subset of aces and no other. No seriously, I don’t know how I got started on that particular bullshit. It went from not being a thing at all, to being A Huge Fucking Thing, and I have no idea why. All I know is once I was on that bullshit, I was like, addicted to it or something. Fuck if I know what was going on. It’s super fucking cringey now to look back on those posts.

I won’t lie and say I’m not still an asshole about some things, because I am. I’ve been just… so angry all my life. Everything sucks, everything hurts me emotionally, and I lash out. I’m trying to improve. One way I’m trying to improve is staying away from Tumblr as much as possible. It’s a toxic place for me, and that just makes this shitty cycle of increasing toxicity.

And part of why I was keeping it up so long, I think, was dealing with a really shitty long-term situation I’ve since gotten out of. Now I’m on my own and I’ve been mellowing out a lot since then. Of course Life still gets to me, still hurts, still causes anger that builds up and comes out in toxic ways.

But I was aiming that rage at entirely undeserved targets, with that whole exclusionism thing I was on. It was hurtful to a lot of people, for absolutely no good reason. If I could undo it all, I would.

So yeah. For whatever it’s worth, there’s my apology, and my promise to be better. Feel free to point exclusionist bigots at me as an example of someone who gave up that bullshit, if you want to. But I totally get it if you don’t want to.

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Demon

Obvious hoax

There's this YouTube video going around where this speech pathologist is claiming to be teaching a dog to communicate with one of those speech boards some nonverbal autistic people use. Her claim is that the dog understands what it's saying, that it's as intelligent as a human child. And people are falling for this obvious hoax! Seriously, dogs are nowhere near that intelligent. They only seem to understand human words because the command words are distinct enough from each other that it's not exactly difficult.

All it is, is training through conditioning, and that doesn't require very much intelligence. Hell, there's also a YouTube video where someone taught their chicken to play a song on a piano. I suppose the people who think the dog is really talking think the chicken is equally intelligent? But no, in both cases, it is simply a trick.

Fuck, I wouldn't have fallen for such an obvious hoax even when I was 9! Because by then I had already read of a similar trick by this guy who trained his horse (named Clever Hans) to appear to be doing math. But it was outed as a hoax; the guy was just training it to do the simple task of tapping a hoof on command, and was making it tap in a way that looked like it was doing math. The same thing is going on with the dog; the woman is clearly just commanding it what to do. It doesn't understand what it's doing or why, it just knows "I do this thing, and I get treats and/or praise." Seriously, you could train a chicken to do the exact same thing! It doesn't understand what it's saying or doing any more than Clever Hans really knew what math was or how to do it. It's a trick. A hoax. Intentionally or otherwise, IT. IS. A. HOAX. And she's using her "credentials" as a speech pathologist to further legitimize it, but again, IT. IS. A. HOAX.

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Family shmamily

Occasionally I am known to dispense nuggets of wisdom, even if unintentionally. This is something I sent to someone on FB who was complaining about their family hating them:

Family are like neighbors; sometimes the only thing you have in common with either is proximity. And like neighbors, you don't have to give a shit about family, especially if they don't give a shit about you. Go out into the world and find a new family, like I did, even if you have to assemble it one person at a time. The family you choose is always superior to the one that sheer dumb luck strapped you with, even if you got lucky enough to have amazing blood family.

Furthermore, if your blood family doesn't give a shit about you, that says more about them than it does about you. It says their taste in humans sucks ass, which means their opinion of you is about as useful as an ashtray on a motorcycle. And if it's perfectly acceptable to divorce a spouse because they're a bad fit for you, it should be at least equally acceptable to "divorce" your blood family for the same kinds of reasons. Anyone who tries to tell you that you owe your family something because your parents happened to have the spunk and egg that made you, and did the bare minimum of feeding and clothing and sheltering their kid, or y'all grew up together... well if they tell you your bio-family deserves your respect or whatever for any of that, you can rest assured that those people don't know their ass from a hole in the ground. You didn't ask them to do any of that. They made their choice to have a kid, and however much or little they did for you after that is their choice and not yours. If a relationship is a bad fit, it's a bad fit, and ending that relationship should never be shamed for any reason.

TL;DR anybody who doesn't like you for everything you are, feel free to tell them to fuck off, and go find somebody who *does* like you for everything you are. You don't owe them shit. But you owe it to yourself to cut toxic people out of your life.

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Maybe don't hide your rule list away somewhere obscure.

Today I got berated on an FB community for not following a weird rule that was hidden somewhere obscure. The rule I broke was criticizing how the group was run in a public post, rather than to an admin in a DM. But rather than go on a rant I don't have the energy for, here's a copy of the DM I sent one of the admins:

Hey so since you don't want to be publicly criticized, I thought I should tell you here that most people see the group's posts from their feed, and you can even "like" or "join" a group from the feed without ever seeing the group's main page, so having your rules on the sidebar (under a read more, no less) means there's a lot of people like me who have never seen them before today. (Took me a few minutes to figure out where they were, too.) So maybe, I dunno, do like some groups do and put up one of those moderator pop up thingies that come up when you join some communities, that has the rules there without a read more. Just a thought.

Also, you might want to list your admins on your page somewhere, because right now there's no way to know who the admins are. The only reason I know to send this to you is because you identified yourself as an admin in a comment.


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Insert title here

Wrote this a few hours ago, couldn't get online to post it:

In a screaming match between two people I don't know, with one of them white and the other black, I always tentatively side with the black person. In a case a few minutes ago, I found this completely justified when whitey started calling the guy an "HIV infected (n word)." No, you racist sack of crap, I will not have pity on you for any reason. I want you out of my sight, filth. I don't know why you were walking on the train tracks a couple minutes before the train was due to arrive, but if you inconvenience me by getting your worthless racist ass run over, I'm going to climb down to Hell and torture you myself.

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Ick

Human muscles are not supposed to be visible. If you have defined muscles or defined abs, that’s being caused by low body fat, and that is not healthy. And on top of that, it just looks disgusting. Especially when it makes your veins bulge out. That’s dangerously close to varicose veins. And anyway, veins shouldn’t be visible either. Stop abusing your body.

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Humans 2.0

My design for humans 2.0: Everything the same, except with some key differences:

1. Those with a uterus will no longer have periods, which will be because:

2. The previous uterus will be downgraded in size, and will allow the egg to attach without having been "prepped" the way it does now. This will be because the reaction to a fertilized egg will be to immediately increase blood flow.

3. There is no longer a placenta, as humans 2.0 will be marsupials.

4. After a month or two pregnancy, the uterus owner will give birth to the tiny baby, where it will be put into the pouch of a penis owner, who will suckle the tiny baby until it's big enough to leave the pouch.

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Voting

Really think there should be an age after which you can no longer vote. Like age 65 or 70. Because by that age, the odds that you'll be around to face the consequences of your vote are pretty low, and they keep getting lower the older you get past that. Sure, it'd remove some progressive votes, but the bulk of Republican voters are elderly.

No better yet: If you're a millionaire, billionaire, or worse, you no longer get a vote. And people who should pay taxes but don't can't vote either, because that's taxpayer money, you don't get to say what's done with it if you don't pay taxes (unless you're too poor to need to). I'll figure out enforcement later.

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